Gifts and Lessons

How we evolve into better versions of ourselves and make the world a better place

Collectively, we have been mourning the losses of loved ones, home and food security, jobs, summer vacation, and routines. The last time I experienced this level of stress, I was taking care of my father during his final days in hospice. I didn’t know what day it was, my hair was falling out, and the only certainty was uncertainty. During that time, I learned we are here to experience gifts and lessons. Gifts are talents we are meant to share with the world. Lessons are challenges we are meant to overcome. Gifts and lessons continue over time, inviting you to continually evolve into a better version of yourself.

A decade ago, my gift was my ability to bring calm to any situation. When my father was admitted to hospice, I held his hand and said, “I’m going to walk you to the pearly gates.” He replied, “I know.” It would not be easy, but we were in it together. I took a leave from work and reacquainted myself with my old bedroom at my parents’ house. In the beginning, I did almost everything myself. It didn’t take long before the crushing weight of caregiving uncovered my lesson-asking for and accepting help. I couldn’t find the words to articulate what I needed but my friends dropped off food, called to check on us, and offered to run errands. All their kind gestures nourished my body and soul. Their…